Why So Mean?

I don't like it when people disagree, online or off; I tend to avoid conflict. And people who know me (or read this blog regularly) know this. I'm getting better at setting (and keeping) boundaries, but I still avoid conflict when I can.

My usual snarky picture for the FAFO crowd;
it shows a Bitmoji cartoon version of me,
a fair-skinned brunette woman looking embarrassed
with the caption OOPSIE WOOPSIE.

Oh, I've gotten into my share of Internet arguments, but I try really hard not to be an asshat, not call names, avoid bringing families (especially children) into it, only fight about the important things rather than whatever randomly irks me, etc. I don't even indulge my grammar notsee tendencies anymore (unless it's actually my job to do so, such as for work or in proofreading my kids' essays). I will freely admit to a certain amount of Schadenfreude regarding people Finding Out after Fucking Around, but I generally limit that to a single snarky remark or meme and then let it go.

So in addition to the people who can't believe that the metaphorical leopard is eating their face after voting for the face-eating leopard party, I really do not understand hate followers/people who think their pet peeve is holy writ/those whiners who complain about stuff appearing in their feed when they have just interacted with it with said complaint.

I've talked about that before too, ad nauseum, so right now I'm diving a little deeper into those folks who feel the need to dictate to/complain at completely harmless vloggers. I mean, I don't understand it, exactly, but I at least have a glimmering of why someone would be annoyed/offended by, say, local politicians or comedians who are punching them when punching up. The truth hurts, after all, and if a stand-up comedian has just punctured your self-satisfied, self-righteous balloon with a well-aimed remark, it's at least comprehensible that you could be upset. Even Mrs Frazzled, as much as I adore her posts, I can understand why folks might not like them. It still doesn't explain hate-following, but maybe she appreciates the views, since her posts are clearly political snark.

But the irritating habit of, say, holding a random New York-based Jewish woman responsible for the crap going down in Palestine? Her vlog isn't even about politics. Or people calling folks like this guy (he makes amazing meals for his wife and daughter and speaks in a very calm kinda ASMR voice) a "beta cuck" because he's making fancy food rather than working a 9-to-5 and a "pedo" because they think his voice is creepy, constantly asserting that "kids won't eat that" because their kids wouldn't, etc etc... those people really annoy me. 

Just scroll on if you don't like his voice or his serving food with chopsticks or his kid eating sushi. Don't yuck other people's yum; there's no call for that.